Yup- I’m annoyed again.  As usual.  Crazy emailed me and told me the reason she didn’t tell George what was going on with Miss B was basically because he has never been an authority figure in her life and she wouldn’t listen to him if did try to punish her.

Really?  i wonder why?  Maybe because Miss B lives with Crazy and she doesn’t enforce punishment that George gives.  I wonder if that could have anything to do with it.  She’s failing in school, sneaks out of Crazy’s house, smokes and drinks, so I’m not so sure she listens to Crazy either.

But even when Miss B was younger if she did something wrong at Crazy’s house we would continue the punishment at our house.  If she was grounded from TV there she didn’t get to watch when she was with us either.  Crazy, on the other hand never enforced anything that George would try to do.  So, once again- another example of why Miss B acts the way she does.

Nice job Crazy.  Hope you’re proud of your “good girl.”

So the other day I told you about how Miss B told us that she is no longer living with Crazy.

Of course Crazy has a different story than Miss B does.  According to Crazy, Miss B is still living with her but is spending several nights each week at her Uncle’s house.  There are all sorts of problems with Miss B.  She is failing at school.  She is sneaking out at night.  Crazy doesn’t have any control over her and doesn’t know what to do with her.  Miss B is smoking now too.  Part of the reason Miss B is spending so much time at her uncle’s house is because Crazy wants her away from a bad news boyfriend too.

I am sure there are true aspects coming from both Miss B and from Crazy.  Whatever the entire truth is, Miss B needs to be living with us.  We need to move back to our home town so she can come live with us without completely uprooting her life.  Or maybe uprooting her life would be a good thing.  Something needs to change.

George and Crazy went to court.

I had prepared all of George’s documents.  Proof that Crazy agreed to the amount that George gave her.  She agreed that the money would cover an entire year.  She still denies it, even with written proof, and says she never agreed that amount would cover the whole year.  There was proof that George had given her additional money as well, when he could.  All of the income paperwork.  All sorts of forms that had to be filled out.  I think this was the main reason I didn’t want this whole thing to go to court- because I knew all of the paperwork would fall on to me.  I doubt that George even ever considered doing the paperwork, he just assumed I would take care of all of it.  Which annoys me to no end.

Anyways, the judge basically said that because George and Crazy had made their own arrangements outside of the court and decided to take care of things their own way, not using the court system, that he could not take into account any of the money that George had already given her.  Which basically means that the amount of money George gave Crazy that was supposed to cover 12 months, is now only covering 4 months.  And the judge will come up with a decision about how much George will have to pay from now on.  In the end, the judge did say he was going to keep in mind the money George had given even though he doesn’t legally have to.

We won’t know the decision for a few weeks.  But, in the end- I think it will be best this way.  Crazy won’t be able to use her usual threat of court anymore, so George won’t have to deal with that anymore.  The problem is that Crazy has really pushed a huge divide between us.  We had really worked out a lot of differences and everyone was getting along relatively well.  And she ruined it.

Crazy and I have talked a few times about this whole court issue.  When we first started emailing back and forth she said she didn’t want the full 17% from George for child support, she just wanted something fair.  Her and I decided that we would try to come to an agreement about the amount of money to be paid and then just let the judge know once in court.  So, I went through and figured out all of George’s income for the last several months since he started his own business.  I gave Crazy those numbers.  Well, guess what?  Now she wants the full 17%.  I think the reason she wants the full amount is that George is making less money than she thought he was.  I guess she thinks it only takes a couple of months to get a business going and doesn’t realize how hard it is at the start.  So, she thought she was going to be able to get more money than she can even if she does get 17%.  Apparently the fact that George isn’t making a whole lot of money and is supporting a wife and toddler doesn’t mean a whole lot to Crazy.  The thing is that Crazy and I have usually been able to get along in the past and work things like this out.  I guess not this time.  I’m done trying to work it out with her and have decided that we’ll just leave it alone.  The judge can decide.